Salvation Army attacks sex-positive activist through its human trafficking...
Sometimes people try to tell me that no one has a problem with S&M; that all stigma against S&M is in our heads and that if we BDSMers would just get over our victim complex, we’d discover that...
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5 sources of assumptions and stereotypes about S&M
Why do BDSMers often feel bad about being into S&M? Why do so many of us freak out once we discover our BDSM identity, or live in secret and repress our desires, or write only under false names, or...
View ArticleAnti-BDSMers pretending to look out for us are dangerous
Maymay, the brilliant BDSM activist who was recently attacked and labeled a pedophile on the Salvation Army’s human trafficking email list, has drawn my attention to another lovely little initiative...
View ArticleLiterary Quotation: Gay alcoholic heartbreak, breakup, and HIV
(Posted at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded Feminism)I’m going to start posting literary quotations that strike me. This one is from Augusten Burroughs’ sweet memoir, Dry. I post it for no...
View ArticleThe mental health professional and the mental patient (wrapped into one)
Cross posted today at Beyond Meds, the blog. This is a rather rambling piece that explores my experience of having been both patient/ex-user of psychiatric services vs. professional in online circles....
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Love Bites: An S&M Coming-Out Story (mirror)
Originally posted at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded FeminismMy coming-out story was first published in February by "Time Out Chicago". I am grateful to them for the publication, but the...
View Article[storytime] My worst moment of hypocrisy
Originally posted at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded Feminism“Do you have anything that you’re hypocritical about in your own life?”My mother just asked me this question. We’d been...
View ArticleSex worker sob story totally misses the point
Originally posted at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded FeminismForget the voices of sex workers who genuinely enjoy their jobs and are tired of being cut out of the discourse on the sex...
View ArticleThe S&M feminist
Originally posted at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded FeminismReaders of my blog have told me that my actual feminist opinions are sort of unclear. So have people who know me in real life....
View Article[storytime] Guilt, failure and a pre-orgasmic feminist
This was originally posted recently at the blog Feminists with Female Sexual Dysfunction and also at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded FeminismI’ve been working on a long article about my...
View Article[litquote/storytime] There It Is
This was originally posted on October 18, 2010, over at Feministe. The comments on the original version are mostly excellent, though some are insane and at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded...
View ArticleBDSM vs. Vanilla, Part 1: Why I Pretend I Don’t Date Vanilla-But-Questioning Men
Originally posted at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded FeminismI’ve been thinking a lot about “mainstream” sex versus “alternative” sex. In the S&M community we have a term, “vanilla”,...
View Article[advice] A 16-yr-old kinkster who wants “a sense of personal integrity”
Originally posted at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded FeminismWhen I received the following email, I was sitting in my mother’s living room. I read the letter aloud to Mom where she was...
View ArticleSocial responsibility, activism, and giving thanks
Originally posted at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded FeminismTonight I had Thanksgiving dinner with my mother and her boyfriend. Some friends of my mother attended, one of whom is a...
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News Flash, Pay Attention: HIV Is About Sex
Originally posted at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded FeminismToday is World AIDS Day. I don’t think about HIV as much as I did a few months ago, when I was still in Africa and my job was...
View Article[litquote] Sex workers and whore stigma in southern Africa
Originally posted at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded FeminismI read a lot when I was in Africa. One of the most interesting books available was Catherine Campbell’s Letting Them Die....
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The Alt Sex Anti-Abuse Dream Team
Originally posted at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded FeminismThis was originally posted on September 28, 2010 over at Feministe, where it picked up a fair number of comments. I’m posting...
View Article[litquote] S&M stereotypes, parenting, and community action
Originally posted at Clarisse Thorn: Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded Feminism The following quotation is from an essay that doesn’t just tear apart some awful BDSM stereotypes, but also makes a great...
View ArticleLady Gaga Was Not Born This Way
It is my belief that....Humans are born with a capacity for bisexuality. A capacity, but not a hardwired predisposition. Yet that capacity is rightly organic. And those avenues can be closed off early...
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